Rumah yang kita tinggali itu tiba-tiba perlu dilakukan renovasi karena banjir yang datangnya gak pake kabar dulu. Langsung hajar tembok depan. Jebol. Atau kendaraan yang biasa jadi kaki kita buat jalan kesana sini, tiba-tiba harus turun mesin, gara - gara salah satu komponennya rusak dimakan umur. Kendaraan mogok. Dan kita pun kembali ke asal, naik angkot.

Kantong duit kita terkuras. Jatah bulanan defisit hampir 100%. Jangankan mikir jajan, buat makan wajib aja harus mikir dulu gara - gara kesedot di perbaikan barang yang kita punya. Tidak diperbaiki, malah membuat semakin mahal biaya lainnya. Misal, rumah jebol gampang diintip maling. Mobil mogok gampang bikin oli mesin jadi kerak.

Perbaikan atau renovasi pun dijalani. Raut muka merengut menemani prosesnya. Sungut-sungut di hati susah ditutup-tutupi lagi. Ibarat mendung, pasti turun hujan. MADESU (masa depan suram) lah pokoknya. Proses perbaikan atau renovasi mencapai akhirnya. Rumah jadi ok atau mobil jadi ok.

Setelah mengalami proses tadi, muncul dua perasaan. Pertama, perasaan memiliki jauh lebih besar dari sebelumnya dan kedua, perasaan tidak perduli semakin menjadi - jadi. Sebab perasaan pertama karena saya sudah keluar biaya, waktu yang luar biasa banyak, jadi perasaan tidak rela berpisah semakin gila. Yang kedua, timbul akibat sungut-sungut yang keluar, perlu dilampiaskan. Sumpah serapah perlu lahan. Jadilah lahan itu namanya ‘tidak perduli’.

Bagaimana dengan anda ?

The first thing I would like to say is ‘thank you.’ Not only has
Harvard given me an extraordinary honour, but the weeks of fear and
nausea I’ve experienced at the thought of giving this commencement
address have made me lose weight. A win-win situation! Now all I have
to do is take deep breaths, squint at the red banners and fool myself
into believing I am at the world’s best-educated Harry Potter
convention.

Delivering a commencement address is a great responsibility; or so I
thought until I cast my mind back to my own graduation. The
commencement speaker that day was the distinguished British philosopher
Baroness Mary Warnock. Reflecting on her speech has helped me
enormously in writing this one, because it turns out that I can’t
remember a single word she said. This liberating discovery enables me
to proceed without any fear that I might inadvertently influence you to
abandon promising careers in business, law or politics for the giddy
delights of becoming a gay wizard.

You see? If all you remember in years to come is the ‘gay wizard’
joke, I’ve still come out ahead of Baroness Mary Warnock. Achievable
goals: the first step towards personal improvement.

Actually, I have wracked my mind and heart for what I ought to say
to you today. I have asked myself what I wish I had known at my own
graduation, and what important lessons I have learned in the 21 years
that has expired between that day and this.

I have come up with two answers. On this wonderful day when we are
gathered together to celebrate your academic success, I have decided to
talk to you about the benefits of failure. And as you stand on the
threshold of what is sometimes called ‘real life’, I want to extol the
crucial importance of imagination.

These might seem quixotic or paradoxical choices, but please bear with me.

Looking back at the 21-year-old that I was at graduation, is a
slightly uncomfortable experience for the 42-year-old that she has
become. Half my lifetime ago, I was striking an uneasy balance between
the ambition I had for myself, and what those closest to me expected of
me.

I was convinced that the only thing I wanted to do, ever, was to
write novels. However, my parents, both of whom came from impoverished
backgrounds and neither of whom had been to college, took the view that
my overactive imagination was an amusing personal quirk that could
never pay a mortgage, or secure a pension.

They had hoped that I would take a vocational degree; I wanted to
study English Literature. A compromise was reached that in retrospect
satisfied nobody, and I went up to study Modern Languages. Hardly had
my parents’ car rounded the corner at the end of the road than I
ditched German and scuttled off down the Classics corridor.

I cannot remember telling my parents that I was studying Classics;
they might well have found out for the first time on graduation day. Of
all subjects on this planet, I think they would have been hard put to
name one less useful than Greek mythology when it came to securing the
keys to an executive bathroom.

I would like to make it clear, in parenthesis, that I do not blame
my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming
your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you
are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is
more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never
experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since
been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling
experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression;
it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of
poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride
yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools.

What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure.

At your age, in spite of a distinct lack of motivation at
university, where I had spent far too long in the coffee bar writing
stories, and far too little time at lectures, I had a knack for passing
examinations, and that, for years, had been the measure of success in
my life and that of my peers.

I am not dull enough to suppose that because you are young, gifted
and well-educated, you have never known hardship or heartbreak. Talent
and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the
Fates, and I do not for a moment suppose that everyone here has enjoyed
an existence of unruffled privilege and contentment.

However, the fact that you are graduating from Harvard suggests that
you are not very well-acquainted with failure. You might be driven by a
fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your
conception of failure might not be too far from the average person’s
idea of success, so high have you already flown academically.

Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes
failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if
you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure,
a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic
scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was
jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern
Britain, without being homeless. The fears my parents had had for me,
and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every
usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.

Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun.
That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was
going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy
tale resolution. I had no idea how far the tunnel extended, and for a
long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.

So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because
failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending
to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to
direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me.
Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the
determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged.
I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realised, and
I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had
an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid
foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is
inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something,
unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at
all - in which case, you fail by default.

Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by
passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I
could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will,
and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had
friends whose value was truly above rubies.

The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks
means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You
will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships,
until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true
gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more to
me than any qualification I ever earned.

Given a time machine or a Time Turner, I would tell my 21-year-old
self that personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a
check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV,
are not your life, though you will meet many people of my age and older
who confuse the two. Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond
anyone’s total control, and the humility to know that will enable you
to survive its vicissitudes.

You might think that I chose my second theme, the importance of
imagination, because of the part it played in rebuilding my life, but
that is not wholly so. Though I will defend the value of bedtime
stories to my last gasp, I have learned to value imagination in a much
broader sense. Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to
envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention
and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory
capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathise with humans
whose experiences we have never shared.

One of the greatest formative experiences of my life preceded Harry
Potter, though it informed much of what I subsequently wrote in those
books. This revelation came in the form of one of my earliest day jobs.
Though I was sloping off to write stories during my lunch hours, I paid
the rent in my early 20s by working in the research department at
Amnesty International’s headquarters in London.

There in my little office I read hastily scribbled letters smuggled
out of totalitarian regimes by men and women who were risking
imprisonment to inform the outside world of what was happening to them.
I saw photographs of those who had disappeared without trace, sent to
Amnesty by their desperate families and friends. I read the testimony
of torture victims and saw pictures of their injuries. I opened
handwritten, eye-witness accounts of summary trials and executions, of
kidnappings and rapes.

Many of my co-workers were ex-political prisoners, people who had
been displaced from their homes, or fled into exile, because they had
the temerity to think independently of their government. Visitors to
our office included those who had come to give information, or to try
and find out what had happened to those they had been forced to leave
behind.

I shall never forget the African torture victim, a young man no
older than I was at the time, who had become mentally ill after all he
had endured in his homeland. He trembled uncontrollably as he spoke
into a video camera about the brutality inflicted upon him. He was a
foot taller than I was, and seemed as fragile as a child. I was given
the job of escorting him to the Underground Station afterwards, and
this man whose life had been shattered by cruelty took my hand with
exquisite courtesy, and wished me future happiness.

And as long as I live I shall remember walking along an empty
corridor and suddenly hearing, from behind a closed door, a scream of
pain and horror such as I have never heard since. The door opened, and
the researcher poked out her head and told me to run and make a hot
drink for the young man sitting with her. She had just given him the
news that in retaliation for his own outspokenness against his
country’s regime, his mother had been seized and executed.

Every day of my working week in my early 20s I was reminded how
incredibly fortunate I was, to live in a country with a democratically
elected government, where legal representation and a public trial were
the rights of everyone.

Every day, I saw more evidence about the evils humankind will
inflict on their fellow humans, to gain or maintain power. I began to
have nightmares, literal nightmares, about some of the things I saw,
heard and read.

And yet I also learned more about human goodness at Amnesty International than I had ever known before.

Amnesty mobilises thousands of people who have never been tortured
or imprisoned for their beliefs to act on behalf of those who have. The
power of human empathy, leading to collective action, saves lives, and
frees prisoners. Ordinary people, whose personal well-being and
security are assured, join together in huge numbers to save people they
do not know, and will never meet. My small participation in that
process was one of the most humbling and inspiring experiences of my
life.

Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and
understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into
other people’s minds, imagine themselves into other people’s places.

Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that
is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or
control, just as much as to understand or sympathise.

And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They
choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience,
never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other
than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages;
they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not
touch them personally; they can refuse to know.

I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that
I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to
live in narrow spaces can lead to a form of mental agoraphobia, and
that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see
more monsters. They are often more afraid.

What is more, those who choose not to empathise may enable real
monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil
ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.

One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics
corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search of something
I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author
Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.

That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times
every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable
connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other
people’s lives simply by existing.

But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to
touch other people’s lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard
work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique
status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you
apart. The great majority of you belong to the world’s only remaining
superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest,
the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way
beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.

If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice
on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not
only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the
ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have
your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who
celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose
reality you have helped transform for the better. We do not need magic
to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves
already: we have the power to imagine better.

I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is
something that I already had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on
graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my children’s
godparents, the people to whom I’ve been able to turn in times of
trouble, friends who have been kind enough not to sue me when I’ve used
their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by
enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never
come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain
photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us
ran for Prime Minister.

So today, I can wish you nothing better than similar friendships.
And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of
mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met
when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders,
in search of ancient wisdom:
As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.
I wish you all very good lives.
Thank you very much.

Kutip dari : http://harvardmagazine.com/go/jkrowling.html

Hukumlah yang memang menyerang anak-anak dan perempuan. Bubarkanlah yang merusak Islam karena mengaku Islam tetapi berRasul bukan Muhammad.

Bapak-bapak aparat, adillah melaksanakan tugas. Di tangan bapak-bapak yang terhormat, sistem hukum dijalankan. Jangan biarkan kami dalam ketidakmengertian yang permanen. Bersikaplah dengan jelas dan langgeng.

Di tempat kita kerja, kita mewakili sifat Maha Adil, contohnya dengan memberi penghargaan untuk yang berprestasi dan memberi hukuman untuk yang bersalah. Sifat Maha Lembut, dengan memberi teguran halus, kata-kata yang sopan tapi tegas.

Di jalan dari kantor ke rumah, mewakili sifat Maha Sabar, kalau dipepet mendadak, tidak perlu membalas mepet. Tidak perlu misuh.

Untuk profesionalitas dong. Kalau sudah dapat stempel pro, untuk apa pro -nya ? Apa bisa awet label pro -nya ?

Demi anak istri lah. Ya sama lah, itu juga tak tahan lama. Paling tahan sampai anak kuliah. Syukur bisa hormat sama orang tua. Kalau durhaka, bagaimana ? Jawaban para koruptor waktu di sel, selalu ‘demi anak istri saya jadi begini’ he he he

Ya buat beli rumah, mobil, naik haji, tour ke Eropa. Terus kalau sudah dapat semua, mau apa lagi ?

Jadi apa dong ? ….

Saya pun belum bisa menjawabnya dengan bukti….

Di perempatan lampu merah itu tempatnya. Bermain di sela-sela pagar taman,
sambil diawasi orang tuanya yg berjualan di trotoar. Indah sekali.
Tidak ada kerutan cemberut di mukanya karena asap knalpot atau karena debu jalanan.
Semua ceria. Ah dunia anak,selalu penuh suka cita.

Gambar diambil dari : 2.srv.fotopages.com/2/5669714/anak-jalanan.jpg

Harga ditawar dengan kemiringan seperti harga grosir. Karena kebanyakan yang beli adalah pedagang.

Jangan harap bisa melihat keteraturan dari penataan mainan yang dijual. Semua serba ditumpuk sampai setinggi-tingginya.

Dan jarak antar toko, mirip gang sempit yang kalau papasan, butuh salah satu yang mengalah. Adu bokong lebih pasnya.

Saking banyaknya mainan yang dijajakan, untuk masuk toko, kita harus menundukkan kepala atau membungkukkan badan. Itu kalau kepala sampiyan tidak mau kejedot.

Dan, tawaran yang paling pas lah yang membahagiakan kita semua. Sama-sama senang, gitu lah kata pedagang.

Apa sih yang sebenarnya ingin saya tulis. Ya apa lagi, buku ajaib itu. Laskar Pelangi dan tetraloginya. Saya benar-benar seperti keledai dungu yang tidak melihat rumput menghijau di depan mata siap dimakan. Sedari dulu saya sering diberi tahu oleh hampir semua orang yang saya kenal, buku itu bagus, buku itu membangkitkan semangat, buku itu seperti roh motivasi yang tercetak dalam kertas. Tapi apa reaksi saya, gak percaya !, tukang kibul kalian semua…Wong buku susah dibacanya koq dibeli. Apaan tuh pake bawa-bawa nama ilmiah dari suatu pohon atau binatang. Susah ngebacanya apalagi mengejanya. Fiuh !

Tapi ternyata, ada kejadian yang membuat saya tersentak ketika tidak sengaja membaca di halaman yang saya lupa dan bab-nya saya juga lupa. Kira-kira isinya begini di bab itu, ada kontes seperti cerdas cermat yang diadakan oleh sekolah SD Muhammadiah. Pesertanya dari berbagai sekolah yang ada di Tanjong Pandan. Tim underdog adalah tim dari SD Muhammadiah. Karena dilihat dari fisik bangunannya yang sudah seperti kandang kambing. Apalagi kalau disenggol kambing yang mau kawin, pasti rubuh. Ada keajaiban timbul disini. Ada murid bernama Lintang yang membabat habis semua pertanyaan dengan jawaban-jawaban jeniusnya. Mulai dari pertanyaan pertama sampai terakhir. Semua dijawab tanpa cela, tanpa telat dan tanpa perlu bantuan yang lain. Single fighter.

Lintang diceritakan dalam novel ini, sebagai sosok penuh keinginan untuk maju dengan bersekolah. Keluarganya yang mengandalkan hidup dari seorang ayah yang bekerja sebagai nelayan. Dengan kewajiban menafkahi mulut banyak orang yang tinggal bersama dalam satu atap. Lintang, yang setiap hari harus menempuh 30 km dari rumah untuk ke sekolah. Lintang, yang sewaktu didaftarkan ayahnya ke sekolah, tidak bisa memegang pensil. Lintang, yang ayahnya pun tak yakin dengan keputusannya menyekolahkan anaknya akan membawa hasil sebagai penopang penggantinya dengan jalan sekolah.

Bab itu bisa membuat saya seperti tersengat api panas di dalam besi yang ditempel dibokong. Terlompat, terlonjak seperti orang yang bertemu kekasihnya yang sudah dirindukan bertahun-tahun tak berjumpa. Air mata sempat menetes sewaktu membaca bab ini. Apalagi setelah menonton dari youtube. Terlalu melankolis. Begitulah, keledai dungu ini terlambat menangis, terlambat terlonjak dan terlambat yang lain.

Sering saya lihat, rekan-rekan yang bekerja terlalu lama mengurusi itu-itu saja, makin hari performa kerjanya makin kacau. Bukannya makin bagus, tapi koq menuju pintu kehancuran. Manusia bukan mesin. Manusia punya perasaan bosan. Mesin tidak punya rasa ini. Kebosanan yang bertumpuk-tumpuk karena tidak bisa dikeluarkan, seperti lumpur di dasar akuarium kita. Mengganggu kenikmatan kita melihat liuk tubuh ikan peliharaan kita. Air yang bersih, tanaman yang sehat, ikan warna-warni yang kejar-kejaran dari ujung kiri ke ujung kanan akuarium kita, adalah pemandangan yang bisa menghilangkan rasa stress.

Demi kebebasan berpendapat, Islam boleh dihujat, dan demi hukum anti semit, seseorang yang mengatakan identitas yahudinya, sudah dipojokkan dengan kata-kata teroris. Inikah hukum kebebasan berpendapat yang benar, sehingga yang lain boleh diinjak, dihina ?

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